Competitor, parents and coach. 6 interesting tips

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Introduction

Interactions between a young competitor, their parents and the coach are often decisive—not only for sporting results, but for the athlete’s overall development. Below are six practical principles to improve cooperation, reduce tension and foster honest sporting behaviour.

Why family matters

Family is the primary environment for a child. Parents make decisions about time, transport, nutrition and motivation. When coach and parents cooperate, the child receives consistent support and clear boundaries—conditions that help progress become more likely and sustainable.

6 practical tips for parents

1) Do not interfere during training and matches

During training and especially at competitions, parents who impulsively intervene (giving technical advice, shouting) frequently confuse the child and undermine the coach’s authority. The best role for a parent at a match is calm support—cheering, encouragement and practical help.

2) Trust the coach

If you have checked the coach’s credentials and reputation at the club and chosen to work with them, allow the coach to do their job. The coach is the expert in technical and educational matters; your role is to support the child emotionally and logistically.

3) Don’t confuse your child with many coaches

Taking a child to multiple coaches without informing the head coach can produce conflicting instructions and slow development. Each coach has a method — additional coaching should be planned, communicated and coordinated to avoid mixed messages.

4) Choose your child’s coach carefully

Look for pedagogical skills as well as technical ability. A good coach teaches habits: discipline, respect, decision‑making. Coaches who are also good educators shape athletes who behave well on and off the table.

5) Teach honest conduct and sportsmanship

Sport develops values: honesty, respect, self‑control. Encourage your child to admit mistakes, respect officials and opponents, and accept defeat with dignity. These habits form character beyond sport.

6) Be active and exercise yourself

Parental role modelling matters. When parents lead active lives, children see sport as a normal part of life — a source of health and community, not just a way to win.

Practical checklist/table for parents

| At a competition | Provide emotional support; avoid technical instructions | During match

| Considering an additional coach | Discuss openly with the main coach and set clear goals | Before starting extra lessons

| Struggling with emotions | Stay outside the hall or return after the match | High stress situations

| Choosing a coach | Verify teaching approach and references | At registration or contract

The coach as educator

A coach does more than teach technique — they form habits: work ethic, respect for others’ effort, quick decision‑making. Poor behaviour by players at events often signals gaps in sports pedagogy or in communication between coach and parents.

How to achieve harmony

• Maintain open, regular communication between parents and coach.
• Agree on clear boundaries: who handles technical guidance, who handles health and logistics.
• Emphasize a long‑term vision: sport builds character over time, not just immediate results.

Conclusion

When parents and coaches work together with clarity, respect and a shared long‑term goal, the young competitor’s path becomes safer and more effective. Investing in good communication and educational practices pays off not only in wins, but in building responsible, resilient people.

Sources and further reading:

• International Table Tennis Federation – Coaching: https://www.ittf.com/technical/coaching/
• Positive Coaching Alliance – resources: https://positivecoach.org/
• UNICEF – Sports for development: https://www.unicef.org/sports

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